It is a form of rejection and often comes without an explanation which can leave it feeling very personal. It also triggers those comparative thoughts, “Why you? Why did X get to stay?”, which are really unhealthy for us.
This rejection can trigger imposter syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome is complicated. In quick summary, it is where you feel inadequate about a particular skill, role, job etc. when there is persistent evidence to show that isn’t the case. You have that “I am going to be found out” feeling even though you have a lot of success behind you.
A really effective way to mitigate imposter syndrome that is triggered by a rejection is to find out why the rejection happened. If you are being made redundant, ask why.
You don’t want to move into a new job and spend time worrying if they will think you are useless when the only reason you were made redundant is because they decided they didn’t need your department any more for instance – this is nothing personal against you or your abilities!
Once you have asked why, you can use that information to move forward – even if it is something personal.
Shock right? A positive to rejection!
Being a mild control freak myself it is important for me to find ways to take positive action. It helps with my own well being knowing that although parts of that decision are out of my control, there is a lot that I can do to move forward.
So here are some tips for you if you are being made redundant or might be in future.
If it isn’t something personal.
Example: They don’t need your department anymore.
- Is there anyone else in my department who got to stay? If yes, What skills do they have that made them adaptable that I could work on learning?
- In your next role, can you find a position that allows you to learn skills that cross multiple departments?
- Ask them what skills you would have needed to have to have been able to stay and see if these are things you can learn ready for your next role.
If it is something personal.
Examples: They weren’t happy with your performance.
- Finding out as much about what they weren’t happy with as possible (hard I know but worth it) and use this time to make sure you learn those skills ready for your next role.
- Asking yourself why you were under performing if you know you could do better.
- What did you enjoy about this role and what didn’t you and how did that affect your performance?
These are just some quick examples but it is important to see what you can learn from the experience and what you can use to improve yourself rather than wallowing in the “failure”. I use the “” because it is only a failure if you don’t try and up your game after falling down.
The only failure is not trying, so let this experience be a learning point.
It is ok for it to knock you back a bit and harm your confidence. It is normal to have a rejection make you feel less than.
How you process this challenge in your life can dictate a lot how
ever. Knowing you have tried to move on and not only that but succeeded in doing so in a role that aligns with you will be worth the effort!
I have your back but know it is more important that you can have your own and just use me and the rest of your support system for backup.
If you are struggling with redundancy right now don’t worry, there is a new service coming to Engineer Your Mind soon to help support you called the Redundancy Realignment Resource.
While you wait – it won’t be long! – you can always use the ,,drop-in mentoring package for support.